-What every woman knows, but doesn’t know how to do: ask for HELP.
I am no stranger to independence. I was one of the many women in the club singing, “All the women who are independent throw your hands up at me.” Or how about the infamous, “Who run the world? Girls.” Please don’t get me wrong; I am all for “girl power” and the rights of women. There is a beauty to a woman who can walk with her
head held high and who feels absolutely comfortable in the skin that she is in. Who believes that she could go out and conquer the world everyday. There is nothing wrong with it, however, as women we become content with being an independent woman. When we need help, but we are to ask for it. Why is that?
I acquired my first job when I was 13 years old. I was the local “paper girl.” Every Wednesday morning I would roll and rubber band the papers, and every Wednesday after school deliver them. Every year after that, with the exception of 2015, I have always have a job. I am the I-know-what-I-want type of girl, and the only way I’ll get it is if I go out there and get it myself.
I have a tendency to want to do things on my own. I don’t enjoy people knowing that I need assistance, let alone asking for it. Who does? The thing we fail to realize is that we all need help. If we stopped running around like crazy women and really evaluated where we were, then we would actually see our problems.
What are we afraid of?
God not hearing our prayers?
Letting God or someone else into our space and our lives?
Being rejected by God or others?
God or others saying no?
There is a fine line between independence and pride, and humility is honestly the only answer. For a long time I measured my success by what I was able to buy and provide for myself, and then 2015 happened. The Lord brought me to a season of learning humility. I realized that it wasn’t me getting all these things done. It was God. He blessed me tremendously with other people who desired to come alongside me and support me in all aspects of my life. True humility is recognizing that there is power that goes through you, but it’s not from you.
You don’t have to live this life alone. You don’t have to go out every day and put on a facade and pretend that you are superwoman who has it together. Humility can be found in vulnerability. First and foremost cry out to the Father and allow Him to know that you need His help. He is the source from which all your blessings flow. Let the people who are closest to you know when you need help. More often than not they will be there to help you. Have faith. Throw out the ways of the past and start fresh today with vulnerability. Trust me – it’s worth it. What would rather have? A 15-year-old red-bottom heel or a brand spanking new one to walk down your Runway of Destiny? The choice is yours.
Scriptures on Asking for Help
“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.” Matthew 7:7
“You did not choose Me but I chose you, and appointed you that you would go and bear fruit, and that your fruit would remain, so that whatever you ask of the Father in My name He may give to you.” John 15:16
“This is the confidence which we have before Him, that, if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us. And if we know that He hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests which we have asked from Him.” 1 John 5:14-15
“Then they cried to the LORD in their trouble, And He brought them out of their distresses. He caused the storm to be still, So that the waves of the sea were hushed. Then they were glad because they were quiet, So He guided them to their desired haven.” Psalm 107:28-30